Making hospital stays less scary

theSun, Tue, 25 Aug 2009

One of the worst things about being a parent is coping with a sick child. And I don’t mean the usual sniffles or sore throat which a simple visit to the doctor will suffice.

The real challenge is when a child is seriously sick and requires hospitalisation. The experience can be less daunting for both of you if you know what to do.

If your child needs to be admitted into hospital, let him know beforehand. If he is a pre-schooler, tell him about it a day or two earlier. Do not tell him too early as he might get unduly anxious.

Older children, however, can be told about it as soon as possible. This way, they will have more time to prepare themselves mentally and emotionally, and can ask questions to ease their apprehension.

Answer their questions as simply as you can. The explanations and descriptions that you use to let them know what to expect should be age appropriate. As the parent, you are the best person to know how much your child can understand.

Be honest with him and sound positive. If pain or discomfort is to be expected, tell him the truth but assure him that the doctor and nurses will give him medicine to make him feel better.

Share with him why he needs to stay in the hospital, how long he will be there, and what the doctors and nurses will do. Tell him where you will be and when you will be visiting him during his stay. Let him know if you plan to stay with him (if the hospital allows it) as he will feel reassured.

If your child is a pre-schooler, read him storybooks about going to the hospital. Play ‘doctor’ or ‘hospital’ with him using a toy doctor’s set. Pack his favourite books, toys or activity books so that he will feel more at home.

He can be kept occupied and feel less bored if his condition allows him to indulge in some light activity in bed or in the room.

To prepare yourself, get as much information from the hospital about the procedures for admission. Familiarise yourself with the hospital surroundings and facilities such as parking areas, restaurants and visiting hours.

Ask the doctor for details to understand your child’s condition better. Find out what he or she will be doing to help your child so that you know what to expect.

Take care of yourself and make sure you rest and eat well. Share your thoughts and feelings with family and friends. Stress and worry could take a toll on you, and your child can pick it up.

Negative vibes and nervousness are among the last things you want your child to feel. You need to be calm and confident to provide the love and support your child needs during that period.